“In everything, treat others as you would want them to treat you, for this fulfills the law and the prophets.” Matthew 7:12.
I think we are generally all quick to take umbrage when someone doesn’t treat us with respect, acts impatiently or is unkind towards us. More often than not we make no secret of the fact that we feel offended, hurt or angry. We tend to justify our feelings of anger and offense by focusing on how undeserving we are of such undesirable treatment. Sometimes we relay the offense to others to not only win ourselves extra pity but also to shame the offender. After all how dare they?
In truth, it really isn’t quite that cut and dry. Now I am certainly not saying that your feelings aren’t important, nor am I saying that you don’t deserve to be treated well. What I am saying, is that perhaps, we could start by keeping whatever was said or done between you and the person who offended you. Don’t tell others because no matter how well intended you convince yourself that your motives are, it is still gossip. By spreading the story, or in essence ‘rumour’ you really are repaying one offense with another. Your behaviour is then disrespectful, impatient and hurtful which really makes you no better than the offender.
What it really comes down to is treating others the way you would like to be treated. None of us can say we have never, for whatever reason, treated somebody else unfairly or unkindly. Of course, we would not have appreciated it if the person on the receiving end of our bad behaviour went and told others about our momentary lapse in judgment or loss of control. No, we would want them to give us a break; and treat us with grace and understanding. Thereby allowing us the opportunity to apologize. We would want them to genuinely forgive our transgression whether we apologized or not. So, if that’s how we want to be treated shouldn’t we be treating others that same way?
Treating others the way we want to be treated does not only relate to conflict, but to offering help, giving encouragement, showing affection as well as every other area of our lives. We cannot treat people one way and expect them to treat us another. If we believe we deserve the best then we should also believe that so does everyone else.
This is a concept that is really difficult for children to grasp and understand. Developing children are still discovering themselves and are thus very “self” orientated. Children learn best by example and through demonstration. It is for this reason that I wrote the “Wadi the Whale” book. The story shows children the importance of treating others the way they want to be treated. The delightful Wadi character, along with the entertaining story and captivating illustrations give children the opportunity to see the consequences of when we don’t treat others the way we want to be treated and the benefits of when we do. This is done in an engaging way so that children don’t feel they are being preached to but will undoubtedly remember the story and find themselves adopting this value which will help them in their daily lives.
“Wadi the whale” is available from Amazon and various other leading online retailers. Take a dive into this delightful book and join Wadi, the polite whale, on his deep-sea adventure. If you have read and enjoyed this story would you please be so kind as to show your support by leaving a review. I sincerely hope that this story will bless both children and parents alike.
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“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou.